Tantric Advice

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To give tantric advice one needs to be an expert in the matter of spiritual sexuality. Unfortunately there are many people in this field that take advantage of the fact that many couples and also singles are seeking advice in sexual matters and so they have made a nice profitable business of giving so-called “tantric advice’.

The whole practice of Tantra comes from an old culture. In the time this was taught human evolution was still far away from the expansive consciousness that has been achieved in our time. I am talking about many centuries past, during the Indian culture period. Since then human evolution has passed other culture periods and has changed very much. As a consequence the techniques that we must use nowadays should be according to our present state of evolvement. This is an important reason my advice concerning so-called tantric matters is going to be quite different from what you might have read before.

The History and Purpose of Tantric Practices

Maybe I should call this article instead of tantric advice anti-tantric-advice! Why? Because as I have already told you, tantric practises come from a time when we were very different. Humans were not as developed as they are now; especially not as individuals.

Humans were still under the leadership of an initiate (a person sought out by the Gods, the higher powers, to fulfil spiritual and political leadership), even if they were not aware of this. This initiate would set the “rules” for how to live, and the sexual life, which was dedicated to the Gods, was part of this ‘tantric’ way. It was hardly possible for an individual to energise his or her own body. At that time they were not capable of developing their sexual energy as individuals. Also they knew nothing of the roles of man and woman in lovemaking and the evolutionary potential of a sexual relationship. You may wonder how this can be true. It’s very simple: they hadn’t evolved to the stage where they had a role as a ‘couple’ yet. They only had a role as being part of a group. The tantric practises were given to the people by initiates to make sure that both partners would feel satisfied. Advice was given on how to use and exercise the different postures so that couples would develop their sexual energy and stay very healthy. This way they would bring forth very healthy children and the evolution of mankind was assured.


Practicing Tantra in our Time

The practice of tantra in our time is not very wise. The reasons vary and I will try to explain. First of all, we are at a different stage of evolution; a stage in which each individual must take responsibility for his or her own development. This means that if we want to evolve we must not hang on to “our” group, and act according to this group’s dictates. We must step forward as individuals and break out of what is commonly known as the ‘status quo’.

We must not make our cultivation of sexual energy dependent on a group or even a partner. So sex is not the way to enlightenment, as many modern proponents of Tantra claim, yet is an essential part of our life that must be consciously embraced to become a whole human being. We must learn how to increase it ourselves, but not in a material, physical way.

The times that we are living in are times in which we must find the spirit in matter through matter. Matter stands here also for the physical body. This does not mean we must hang on to matter.

How to Increase Sexual Energy if not the Tantric Way!

So to actually increase sexual energy, we must be still, and not do all kinds of gymnastics (with the body). We must develop a spiritual sexuality within ourselves that we can put into practice while making love with our partner. We must be very private and practise the augmenting of the sexual energy force within ourselves as part of our incarnated being, not as a means by itself or to just have pleasure. Realise that sex must be pleasurable, but not technical. And certainly not a kind of technically learned pleasure.
In my seminars on sexual energy I teach how to increase and develop sexual energy, and in loving relationships we work on how we can use this energy together with our partner, to create a better world for all.

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