Signs a Relationship is Over

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Signs a Relationship is Over

There are certain recognizable signs that show a relationship is over. Obviously, the easiest to recognize is when one of the partners says: ‘the relationship is over’!

And no matter how difficult this may be for the other, when one partner feels it is over, then IT IS OVER. That is something to accept for a fact; otherwise you will be forever wasting your energy, which is like fighting against windmills (fantasms).

Less Obvious Signs A Relationship Is Over

Some signs are not so obvious; so take a good look. Your partner is not asking any more about how your day was, how you feel. Nor does he/she listen to what you want to say about your experiences. He/she will have an excuse that he/she is too busy, they must put the trash outside or they need to make an urgent phone call.

In the beginning this might be subtle for one has the feeling that the partner really might be busy and those busy periods in life do happen. But after a while a certain dynamic starts to develop and it’s very important that one doesn’t deny its existence. In one’s heart one knows something is not quite right. Listen to your heart and speak to your partner about it, because by bringing it up you are half way to solving the problem

The More Obvious Signs A Relationship Is Over

* Your partner is not interested in sex.

Whatever you do, it is either too late, too early, other things need to be done, or the partner is tired or ill. When this lasts longer than a week it is time to start asking clear direct questions. Don’t ask “Am I not attractive any more?” or “Are you seeing someone else?” Start with: “I can see something is wrong, for you don’t seem to want to have sex with me any more and I really want and need to know why, so please don’t be evasive and tell me.” By asking a question this way one is opening up a space to talk together free from accusation.

* Your partner spends as much time as possible away from home.

He/she comes home to sleep, to change clothes, to have showers, but even the meals are often taken somewhere else.

* The partner gets irritated when questions about his/her behaviour or change of habits are asked.

* The partner does not answer direct questions.

Possible Signs That The Relationship Is In Jeopardy.

* The partner changes his/her way of dressing and/or make-up. Maybe even the perfume or after-shave is changed. After asking why, the answer is vague.

* The partner does not receive and/or make his/her calls on the landline but mainly on their mobile phone.

* The partner leaves the room to talk on the phone.

* The partner is not interested in having visitors coming for a nice evening.

* The partner will suddenly not come to family-meetings like birthdays etc.

Now these can all be signs that a relationship is over. One has to always make sure though; so follow my advice about asking questions without accusation while leaving space for the other and get the confirmation before you act!

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