Relationship Advice For Men

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My relationship advice for men is, hopefully obviously, totally different from my relationship advice for women. The reason for this is very simple: men are totally different from women, so they tick totally differently from women. Men have a totally different way of thinking than women. For this reason they have also a very particular way of seeing a relationship and how they think it should function. Again this sounds obvious but so many times arguments between couples are because a man is seeing the situation from his view and it makes perfect sense to him and the woman is seeing from her view, which also makes perfect sense to her. There is a gap because each doesn’t understand why he/she doesn’t see the situation the same as the other. It can be fascinating to see this in practice and then instead of imposing ones view on to the other actually look to see the truth in the situation. This will probably take both of you working together!

Do you remember when you were a teenager, that you used the words “always” and “never” all the time? If you don’t, I am sure you must have heard other teenagers do this. Maybe it drives you crazy, especially when these teenagers are your own children. Now in what follows I hope that I don’t drive you crazy because I am going to use the words “always” and “never” many times!

My Primary Advice for a Man in a Relationship

ALWAYS tell her you love her! The first advice I would like to give any man in a relationship is to realise that she needs to know he loves her! Now you will say (being a man): “but she does!” But do you tell her? She needs to hear you say it!

For a woman communication is very important and she knows this. For a man communication is very important too, yet he often does not realise this.

A man needs his woman to tell him that she finds him great; that he has been lovely; that it was marvellous that he did the dishes tonight. Many men need constant acknowledgment and confirmation to make them feel secure. Women need the same from their partners.

Now this is the kind of communication I meant, when I said, that communication within a relationship is important for men too, yet they often don’t realise this.

So NEVER take it for granted that she knows that you love her: ALWAYS, day after day, tell her!


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Were I to write this part the way some women feel, it would come out as a scream for help; for survival. Yet, I really want you to listen; not to scare you away. And this is what it is about: listening.

Most men really have a problem in listening. They are too occupied with what is in their minds as to take the effort to put their attention to what their partner wants to communicate. And so again, as you will find on other pages too, there is the problem of having a lack of communication.

Communication exists only when the two vital ingredients are active: the speaking and the listening. Without either of them there is no communication. The beauty of a relationship between a man and a woman is the opportunity to inquire into life together so a new view can emerge that is not just male or just female. This can only happen if both parties are interested in growing together, fully respecting each other by listening and communicating. If men start listening and speaking, women will respond by loving and supporting. Women need to be heard and respected, like men do themselves.

Communicating the Little Things Matter

NEVER take it for granted that she knows how much you appreciate the everyday things that she does. Let her know that you appreciate it that she irons your shirts, cooks your meals and tidies your laundry. Maybe she does know, but maybe she doesn’t; so do tell her: ALWAYS, ALWAYS and every single time again! A little appreciate can open doors that they may not have expected – in oneself and in ones relationships.

What is the Reason for this Advice to Men in a Relationship?

The reason I give men this advice is because often their relationship ends because she walks out of the door one day and he doesn’t know why. She has ended the relationship because he never told her that he loved her. He never expressed his commitment, his appreciation, his love so in the end she feels that she is taken for granted. This is the worst that can happen to a woman, to feel that she is not honoured or acknowledged. If woman feels it doesn’t matter whether she is called Jane, or mixer, or osterizer, as long as she functions like she does she will eventually leave or dull out and the relationship will be finished or exist in a very unhealthy state for both parties.

I cannot put enough emphasis on the fact that showing respect actively is the crux of having a healthy relationship. Respect must be expressed through communication. Silent respect is the beginning, yet it can also be the end. Just think of the words in the Bible (even if you think this is dumb) that in the beginning there was the word, then there was air, earth, water etc. So in the beginning you speak the words, and then you have a content wife, not before!!

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