Building a Healthy Relationship

Building a Healthy Relationship

Building a healthy relationship is not a matter to be spoken about lightly.
The difficulties that people have with their relationships nowadays are enormous.
In fact most relationships are quite painful. Why? Because many people haven’t yet discovered that building a relationship is not just something that happens in the very beginning, but that it is THE essential ingredient in keeping a relationship healthy in the long-term.

The following posts have been created to help you find out how healthy or unhealthy your relationship is. They will also help you clarify the important factors that you may need to work on in your relationship and give you an idea where to start:

Stages of a Healthy Relationship
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship


Why work on building a Healthy Loving Relationship?

The reason we want to work on building a healthy, loving relationship is very simple: a healthy relationship is not something that happens by itself!

Often when we are alone we are longing for a relationship. We long to be in somebody’s company for it is natural for a human being to be together with at least one other human being. A healthy human does not like to be alone for very long! But we don’t just want to be in any relationship. We want a healthy loving relationship. Such relationships are quite rare.

It is the daily commitment to building a healthy loving relationship that causes both partners to feel close and equally worthy. This is a very important point. If one of the partners does not feel as worthy as the other the balance is broken, and imbalance in the relationship means it is not healthy.

If we want to be happy we need to feel this equality, this acknowledgement from our partner. We will feel this equality if building on our relationship is as important to our partner as it is to ourselves.

A Healthy Relationship is an Isle of Hope

What do I mean by: a healthy relationship is an isle of hope?

It means that when I see a couple that are very much in love and I can feel their relationship has already lasted a long time, I feel that the world is still a place I want to live in.

The signs they emanate give me hope. Especially when I see older people, with healthy rosy cheeks, with shiny eyes and this special radiance holding hands together. One can see that they have been building on their relationship right up to the present. And they have never gotten tired of doing so and nor have they gotten tired of each other. This fills me with enormous gratitude, with tremendous hope.

When my husband and I, after having been married secretly with only my youngest daughter present ten years ago, decided to remarry in front of a crowd of people, with family, friends and curious people gathered around us, this was to celebrate the relationship we have. We wanted to show that being committed to building a healthy relationship is not only very worth doing but that a happy couple that has really chosen for each other, is an isle of hope for everybody else.

So to find out where you are in your relationship, or where others are in their relationship (whether healthy or not!), please check out the following pages:

Stages of a Healthy Relationship
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship


And do know this: a healthy relationship is certainly worth it, for being happy is the best thing that can happen to you. Every other trial in life becomes more bearable when your relationship is happy. Having a happy, healthy, loving relationship is not just the icing on the cake; it is the whole cake including the icing!!