How to save your Relationship
What I am going to write here on how to improve your relationship is meant to act as a catalyst to spark your own creativity.
While I can help you find ways to improve your relationship you are the one that is in the relationship that needs improving! So I will try to help you find access to your own creative resources so that you can start to improve your relationship right away.
Relationship as a Medium for Personal Growth
If this is your sincere goal your relationship becomes something very wonderful, especially when this aspiration is mutually shared.
Even as I say “to become a better person” do realise that I am not saying you are not a wonderful person already! But all of us can improve ourselves; that never stops. And so with this attitude our relationship always has the potential to improve also.
Obviously, if you are reading this it is because you really want to improve your relationship. So realize that you can only do this when you genuinely desire to become a better person.
For a better person wants to respect the other, endeavours to be independent so as not to burden the other, is considerate of the other person’s needs etc.
How Do I Improve My Own Personality?
One becomes a better person by practicing acceptance. Self-acceptance comes first and then, through this, acceptance of the partner.
By self-acceptance I mean that in spite of the fact that all of us have things to improve, we must accept ourselves as we are. Funnily enough it often happens the other way around. Many people accept the other first and then themselves, or often they don’t accept themselves at all.
I would like to state something here that is known by many, but that is not taken to heart by most: When you don’t accept yourself the way you are, you will end up not really accepting the other!
If you don’t accept yourself the way you are, you will eventually become resentful towards your partner who does what he/she wants because you have always accepted this. You will end up not accepting them. You’ll start hating your partner and wishing he/she were not your partner at all!
Now it is important to start to think about these things when your relationship is still healthy and strong going. Yet it is especially crucial when your relationship is not so good and you need to save it.
In the following heads you will find some useful tips for a relationship in general as well as one that is in a critical state. I wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart!
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