Communication in Relationship

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I’m going to talk to you about communication in relationship. I’m sure you’ll agree that this is a theme one cannot be serious enough about! If the communication in a relationship is good, the relationship is healthy.

If you put into practice what you are about to read it will make a difference!

I would like to emphasize here that what I define as a “relationship” begins when two people start consciously having contact with each other. Communication is the means by which a relationship starts and evolves. It is with this understanding in mind that I will write about communication in a relationship, whether amorous or otherwise.

Communication at the Beginning of a Relationship

When we want to get to know somebody, when we want to buy something, when we need something from someone, we use some sort of communication to call the attention of that person.
At that moment we have created a relationship. Relationship comes from relating, and we are relating to someone.

At this very moment I am in communication with you. And for you to understand me, and to find what I want to tell you interesting, I have to watch for a few things.

Things to Watch for in Communication

The first thing I must watch if our communication is to continue is that I come across in a pleasant way. When you like me you will listen to me more easily, even if I want to communicate things you don’t really like.

The second thing is that I must be respectful. When you feel that I respect you and that I see you as an equal, you will feel attracted to and curious about what I have to say. It will usually cause you to respect me too. For you it is important that you feel I respect you as you are, with what you think, that I respect your space and your origins.

The third thing is that I let you be free. I have a few pieces of advice concerning this because letting the other person be free is very important and has several aspects.

It is important that I give you the feeling that whatever you think or feel is ok, while at the same time, I tell you what I think and feel. I am not trying to persuade you to feel or think the same as I. And as a result you will want to stay in communion, in communication with me.

The fourth thing is to very much watch my tone of voice. When my tone is neutral or even better, loving, you will want to listen to me. And here we touch upon an important point for any relationship, whether an amorous one or not.

When my tone of voice has the slightest hint of reproach or accusation in it, you will close up. You will build a wall around yourself, get prickly and, figuratively speaking, turn your back on me.

Why? Because you will feel that I am not giving you a chance in this moment and so you will fall back into a feeling you know from your past. And from there you will fall into the conditioned pattern connected with that feeling.

Communication in All Relationships

As you can see everything that I have said here is applicable to all kinds of relationships; loving, amorous relationships as well as friendships, employer-employee relationships etc. I am sure that all of you out there would like to build happy, healthy relationships so I sincerely encourage you to start by putting in practice what you just read. I guarantee it will make a difference!

More post that you may find helpful:

How to Improve Your Relationship, Relationship Advice for Men, Relationship Advice for Women, Relationship Test (at the right side of the page)