Christmas/Weihnachten/Navidad

Liebe liebe Menschen!!

Es ist fast Weihnachten, und viele werden sich Gedanken machen was sie zu Weihnachten kochen wollen und werden.
Auch ich bin eine leidenschaftliche Köchin, und möchte euch gerne dieses Rezept weitergeben, und damit meine vom Herzen tiefsten Wünsche:
Nimm dich selbst, öffne dein Herz und schaue was du da findest.
Schaue dir an was du davon für dich selbst zu Nutzen machen kannst, und dann, wenn du das getan hast, was du geben kannst an andere.
Gib nur wenn du es mit Liebe und Leidenschaft tun kannst, rede nur, wenn du überzeugt bist, dass das was du sagst, gesagt werden muss und es die einzige Art ist es zu sagen, handele ausschließlich mit Liebe und in der Überzeugung handeln zu müssen.
Weiß, das eine Mahlzeit lecker schmeckt und gut verdaulich ist, wenn sie mit Liebe und Freude gekocht und zubereitet worden ist. Aber ohne diese beiden Zutaten, wird die Mahlzeit schwer im Magen liegen und sich lange, ungewollt, bemerkbar machen.
Ich schicke euch dieses Rezept mit meiner Leidenschaft und Liebe für Mensch, Tier, Pflanz und den ganzen Kosmos. Und ich hoffe diese Liebe darf ein bisschen abfärben, und ihre eigene Farbe in den Menschen entwickeln, die meine Nachricht andächtig lesen.

Einen friedevollen und besinnlichen Advent und Wunderschöne Weihnachten wünsche ich allen aus tiefstem Herzen, damit ihr diese Energie auch mit ins neue Jahr tragen könnt,

Dearest,

it is almost Christmas and you might be thinking of what you want to and will cook for Christmas.
I am also a passionate cook, and I would love to pass this recipe on to you, and with that the deepest wishes from my heart:
Take yourself, open your heart and look what you find there.
Look at what you can make use for yourself of what you see here, and then, when you have done this, what you can give to others.
Only give when you can do it with Love and Passion, only talk, when you are convinced, that that what you are saying must be said and that how you are saying it is the only way it must be said; act only with Love and when you can be convinced you need to act.
Know that a meal tastes good and digests well when prepared and cooked with Love and Joy. But without these two ingredients your meal will lie heavily in the stomach and will be, unwanted, noticeable for a long time.

I send you this recipe with my passion and love for humans, animals, plants and the whole cosmos.
And I hope that the “colour” of this Love may run a bit and develop it’s own colour in every person who reads this message attentively.

From the deepest depth of my heart I wish you a wonderful, peaceful and awarenessful Christmas, so that you may take this energy into the new year!!


Queridos,

Casi ya es Navidad y posiblemente estas pensando ya en lo que quieres y vas a cocinar para aquella fiesta.
Yo tambien soy una cocinera apasionada y me encantaría de pasarte esta receta con los más profundos deseos desde mi corazón:
Cojete a ti mism@, abre tu Corazon y mira que es lo que encuentres alli.
Mira lo que puedes usar para tu mism@, y cuandas hayas hecho esto, lo que puedes dar a otros.
Solo da, si lo puedes hacer con Amor y Pasion, solo habla si estas convencid@, de que lo que estas diciendo se tiene que decir y que la manera como lo estas diciendo es la unica; solo actua con Amor y cuando estes convencid@ que necesitas actuar.
Sepa, que una comida sabe bien y es digerible cuando ha sido preparada y cocinada con Amor y Alegria. Pero sin estos dos ingredientes tu comida se quedara en el estomago de forma pesada y sin querer, notable para mucho rato.
Os mando esta receta con mi Pasion y Amor para las personas, los animales, las plantas y para el cosmos entero. Y deseo que este Amor se contagie un poco, y que pueda desarollar su propio color en las personas que len mi mensaje atentamente.

Desde lo mas profundo de mi corazon os deseo a tod@s una Navidad fabulosa, con Paz y conciencia, para que puedas llevar esta energia a dentro del nuevo año!!

love between nations, a relationship that is needed

In November my daughter Erinda and I went together to the library to get into internet. She was sending out CVs to find a job for the winter as she is a dive master and in winter here there is no work. She sent out 13 but said to me she wanted to go to Kenya… That was a calling… The next day they rang her from Kenya and 10 days later she was there. So she opened up a new continent for us to go to!!

I was going to Kenya before my birthday (beginning of February) and now I have just come back after a very strong experience. Those who know me might understand that this was not meant to be a vacation. It certainly was not, yet it still was marvellous.

Some of you probably know that I have travelled quite a bit; also to countries with very small financial resources and possibilities. But the poverty I have seen here, the under-development, I have not seen anywhere away from Africa, not even 35 years ago. Now Kenya is one of the best African countries in this sense, where poverty, underdevelopment and filth are not as bad as in the other African countries.

For me this was quite a shock, although I had been prepared by my daughter Erinda who already had informed me a couple of months before me flying out there.

She already had travelled to Kenya to her job as a dive master and the 5th of December had already told me that “it is like nothing I have seen elsewhere. Not like south-America, not like Asia. There are no tarmac roads in Nairobi, everywhere there is dirt, rubbish and at night it is really dangerous. The people don’t easily except white people into their circle.”

She travelled on to Mombasa and about 60 km. south of Mombasa, crossing the river, was the place where she was going to work.

After it was clear she really arrived there and started work, and had uttered the enormous wish to start to work there as a volunteer, preferably with some G.N.O. as she saw that sooo much needs to be done there, I decided to book a ticket to fly over. I asked Helmut, my husband, if he wanted to join, which he did. Before I still had to do work in two different places in Germany, seminars and training of therapists, so I booked for the month of February.

When we arrived I felt an invasion of different emotions because of the variety of impressions jumping into me. I felt lots of sadness of the people and the atmosphere, joy because of the beauty, repulsion because of the filth and stank, exhilaration because of the contact with the people thanks to the bit of Swahili I learned fast, surprise because of the high prices, delight because of the beauty of the flowers and the lavishness of the fruit etc. It has been very impressive to see how poor and primitive this country is with so little knowledge, the majority of the population sad, scared, unhappy and in great need, and living amongst rubbish and dirt. It is not a country where everybody smiles. They have an honesty in the expression on their face that is quite unsettling. Yet whatever I did, wherever I went, the sadness was always very present and so the urge to do something was born.

First I thought I should make a foundation that can help to pay school fees for the children. So many parents would love their child to go to school but they cannot afford it. Yet school fees are les than 365€ a year, less than 1€ a day!!! And this includes the transport from school to home back and forth (important as so they can still live at home), the meals at school(so they get enough to eat), the school uniform (so they have some proper clothes) and a medical insurance! But when you realise that many of them just earn 5€ to 10€ a month(!) and the fortunate ones 40 € a month you can see the problem.

This first idea popped up because several people I had talked with, expressed to me their great wish to have their small daughter go to school. They invited me to their “homes” to see the circumstances they lived in and explained their situation. After the first one, a cleaning lady, I was already going to pay for her 9 years old daughter’s school fees, yet after the 3rd I knew that this was an endless pit and I need a plan, as that amount of money I simply don’t have.
This plan is not totally off board though, yet it is not what I will start with, but might be included in the project at some later time.

I felt I had to wait, observe, as I wanted to go to the root. I felt we will be led to the right situation and so it came. Erinda and I were both very tuned in and with each other and so, on a day we had rented a car, she suggested driving southwards and explore.
Of course the road was a dirt road and the three of us took care not to leave the coast too much as it is very easy to get lost. No road signs!!

We arrived at the Kinondo sacred Forest and met Salim. He is the guide and the manager there who takes care of the forest and its sacred places. He told us lots about his people and the history of his tribe and the 8 other tribes belonging to the same spiritual ways.
He does this work to help his people; it is a project to make a change. (soon on the new blog about Kenya)

We talked for hours and for him the fact that I am a seer (as he calls it) was very comfortable and he talked about the “invisible” with great ease, which was pleasant to Erinda and me as that is quite unusual in our world. I was seeing things of the past at the same time he was talking about them the way he had been told by his father and grandfather. That was interesting for us all.

There I told him that in me a plan for a project was growing, yet I did not quite know how and where to start. I told him it was for the people in the villages, especially the women and their daughters and he became enthusiastic and invited us into his village, his community. This is special, and hardly ever done. I would even be allowed to take photographs.

A few days later we went there and also to the school where I met the second head master, a lady who gave us much of her time and listened with interest when I laid out my plan. She was thrilled and said that exactly that is the group where help is most needed and explained lots of the problems she saw. She and Salim committed to the project. Then Salim told me to leave a donation for the school, as that is what visitors must do(?)(so I did).
Yet I was not satisfied yet.
We took Salim back to his work, the forest, and gave him money to thank him for his time and went home with lots to think about.
We filled Erinda in who was very excited and… a bit sad she hadn’t come, as she had to work.

One of the great problems in Kenya is the untrustworthiness of most people. Something I saw everywhere. So I looked further for more people. This idea of more people I deducted out of what Salim told me of how the government support works. If there are a minimum of 6 people wanting to set up a business, the government will help. If they already have experience they will get a loan and can start. If they have no experience but really like to do “this”, the idea, they get the help in the form of training the skills needed, which might include going to specialised courses etc. Salim was the one that told me that in this way the government want to prevent the money going down the drain as they will look upon each other’s fingers.

Erinda has a booking girl at her diving base with whom she has become close friends, her name is Aisha. She is married to a wonderful man, Michael and they have a wonderful relationship (unusual in Kenya) and is expecting their first baby in June.
I talked about the whole thing with her. I explained my vision, my ideal to her, how to go about etc. She looked very serious and was very still. I could see appreciation in her look, but also something that bothered her. I asked her to tell me what she was withholding so she expressed her worry: how to be sure the money will really go there where it is meant to go?
After talking to her, most of the people I talked to about this project said, as she did, that 80 % of the people will try to put as much as they can in their own pocket…

Was that bad news? Not really, it just confirmed my feeling of wanting to find more people so they can check each other out. I told her this and then came the most wonderful surprise: her husband is involved in a project of a children’s home, an orphanage, over the last 5 years, and he really wants to start something new, a new challenge.

Michael is a wonderful, dedicated young intelligent man who called me that third last day of our stay. We were leaving two days later.
He had hoped we would stay longer but when he found out there was hurry he made the morning of the next day free and came to pick us (Helmut and me) up early the next morning. He took us to the children’s home where we met Winnie, a lovely lady who does the whole administration of the place. She is very intelligent and has an enormous heart. She has her own family yet dedicates her energy to these children in the home, emphasizing that they need much love and care because of all they have been through… We talked and talked, and they became more and more enthusiastic the more I told them of what my goal is. And… they will help. They will meet with Salim and Mwanajuma (the teacher) and with Erinda and they will start to find out what to do to legalize the setting up. After 3 hours of talking, Winnie and Michael showed us the project they are in, the children’s home. It is beautiful!!! Everything is done with love and all is beautiful, yet what hit me the most from the beginning I was there: everyone smiles and the place feels very safe, like a warm hugging embrace. Winnie told me that they emphasize on that as these children have a horrible past…
Then at about 13.30 h. Michael took us back home.


To be quite honest, I have never done anything like this in this way. This is going to be a GNO and has to make a bridge between Europe and Kenya. If you know how that works, it would be great if you can help or give ideas. 35 years ago things were done without any kind of bureaucracy…

There is much more to tell, yet I will leave you now and just hope you will find this great. You don’t have to start to tell me whether you like it or not, that is not why I am telling you this. Anyway, I will need my time to be able to set this up and still do the rest of my life, private as well as work, like before, which already occupied a 100 %. Yet, if you can be of help write to me or call me. That would be really great.

Of course at all times I am available for more Information. Please just look where I am, as I travel a lot, which you can do on http://www.sasenyin.de/ under „Programm“ or at the Emailaddress: sasenyin@hotmail.com
My Tel. Number in Spain (where I live) (0034) 619 137 539
In Germany (only in case I am there) (0049)(0)1577 453 75 12

For now I just would like to say, keep trying to love and make this world into a better place and use the awareness you have, actively.
PLEASE SEND THIS TO ALL YOUR CONTACTS; YOU WILL BE DOING THE KENYAN PEOPLE A VERY BIG FAVOUR.

I just received the message that the first person has committed to donate € 365 a year. The project has begun!
With all my love, Ria (see links at the bottom of all)

AILMENT and TABU OF THIS CENTURY; 1. ENVY

When I look at this title again, I wonder if I should say 'age' instead of 'century'. To make it more flexible. An age can take a hundred years, or less, or more. So let's hope this is a short age.

Also in the title I put the word “tabu”. Because envy is a word we don’t mind using for someone else, but for our selves… No one likes to admit being envious. It is a black shadow we don’t want to acknowledge. Therefore is it a tabu.

What is envy? Where does it come from? Where do we find it "en masse"? Can we control it? What can we do about it?

All these questions come up when people get confronted with envy, whether in themselves or because others envy them.

We especially encounter envy in circles of the same occupation: politicians, healers, masseurs, medical specialists, electricians, plumbers, computer-technicians, friends etc. o yes, friends, that is where envy occurs sooo often.

It often comes from a place of competition; a place of insecurity in one's own capacities.

In the following three phases of envy I will try to answer the other three questions.
There are different kinds of envy. Yet all have in common the fact that someone else has, does, knows or is something that the person who envies, wants. This wanting can have different degrees; that's why there are different kinds of envy.

Degree 1: Someone goes on holidays to a place we really like and would like to go to too. We envy the person for her/his holidays, yet we really feel this person deserves it and we are happy for this person to have this opportunity. This is envy in its innocent state. It is mild, and absolutely harmless.it is not that we don’t want that person to experience whatever wonderful things, but simply that what that person is going to have appeals to us too.

Degree 2: A person is very good and successful in what she/he has chosen as her/his work. On top of it attractive in her/his looks and very pleasant in the way this person behaves towards others. We envy this person for her/his looks, success and niceness of character, as we see clearly we don’t have these qualities.
Until here there is still no harm done. But we start talking about this person in such a way, that it looks we are saying how good they are, but build in a negative statement that sounds like a positive one (he is so nice, but very strong though! or wait until she/he says what you have to do, it is very confrontative and not easy to deal with) because we carefully want to show this person is not as wonderful as it seems. We want to get the kind of attention this person gets (and deserves), and so start to build up an image around this person that is untruthful, and as a consequence will make many people back away from this person without even knowing her/him.
This is quite moving into the wrong direction. We must realise that we have no benefit from this whatsoever. We only will feel worse when someone discovers what we are doing, or when we discover it ourselves. So many do not even realise that they are doing this. Their own insecurity has led them to do this and their pattern might come from very far back so that by now they are really not even aware of it.

Now, what to do? Be happy that you know a person like this; that you can actually benefit from this persons character directly. Take this person as an example and try to work on those qualities you really admire in the other. See the reality that this person has worked with dedication to achieve this state of being, that this has come by merit, not by luck. Enjoy the love this person radiates and see the good it brings the world, this world that will be a better world if more people would be like her/him. Feel fortunate to have the awareness of will help change the world for the better.

Degree 3: we take the same example as in degree 2. We do all what we have talked about in this example, yet we do not just talk so-called positive about the person, we actually talk negative about her/him. We might not even know this person but we take over the opinion of others and spice it with our own comments. We make it impossible for anyone to like this person. We feel inside we would like this person not to exist. Or even stronger: we might feel we want to destroy the person (we might not act upon this though).

This is the illness of this age/century. This is where we have slowly headed for: to talk bad about others, as it might make us look better. Unfortunately there are many people that put themselves high and at the same time others low, thinking it will make them shine more.

Now sorry folks, but this is not the case. It does not work this way. You look really good if you can praise someone sincerely; when you talk about someone else with awe, respect, love, admiration or any other positive feeling or emotion. You will have absolutely no benefit of doing the bad PR (Public Relations). You might close doors for other people who need this person though. You get yourself heavily involved in negative karma this way, and not just with the person you envy. You take on an enormous responsibility for the destinies of all these people that might have wanted to contact your envied person but won't after your negative PR.
What to do about it? Take the advice of degree 2 very serious, and ask the person of your envy for forgiveness, and even for help. You will be surprised how wonderful this works so that you can become real friends and that to this person your "big sin" is not a big deal once it is on the table.

Ria Panen Godesberg Programm

Ria in portugal

To see Ria's stay and programm in Portugal in may/june 2010 look at www.awakenedlifeproject.org

Horse accident

Today is a special day. Today I have not felt depressed at all, had no fear and feel a lot more confident. This after all the pain and agony I have been through since my accident with my horse the 15th of March 2009. You can read about that on the site wake-up-life-is-waiting-sasenyin.blogspot.com. But the reason I write this post here is because it has revealed so much about all the relationships I have with people.

It is simply wonderful to be allowed to experience so much love, so much willingness to make me feel well. This is simply fantastic.

For me love means giving without thinking about wanting anything back. That is my way of living which is loving. That I would get all this back is soooo wonderful. Not that it is worth having to have such an horrible accident for it. Yet to be able to see something happening I had never believed I would ever receive of others: that is an enormous gift. I am gratefull for it and wanted to share this with you.

Just love, try to see the best in people, and your life will be filled with riches!!!
love, ria

Sexual energy, develop it!

Wow, yupee, SEX!!

Sex is something that most people really like.

For several it is as important as their daily bread.

They cannot imagine that there are actually people that easily go without.

*Now is this what I really want to talk about?

*Is it the sexual energy that makes people become obsessed with sex?

No, it is not. And so I am not going to talk to you about frequent sex. But yes, it is sexual energy that makes the crispy feeling that can happen between two people, and not necessarily in a sense of wanting actual physically sex with each other. But it is a feeling of being alive, of vibrating, of fire…

And this is the clue: sexual energy is all about fire.

Sexual energy is the energy that makes us capable of growing in our mother’s tummy, of being born.

Sexual energy makes it possible for us to live in a body, a physical, very alive body.

It is the engine for every physical movement; it is the motor behind our brain function, which means that without sexual energy thinking is unheard of.

Sexual energy takes care for the body temperature; it is the sparkle of our energy.

Without sexual energy we would actually be very dead!

Now hearing all this, it is clear that this is an energy to develop.

*But why would we call it sexual energy?

Because sex is still the medium through which we enter this material world on planet earth.

It is situated in the chakra where the sexual organs are situated, and we cannot think of life without having to consider sex.

*Now why is this all of a sudden so important?

People are having sex all the time.
That is definitely true.

Yet ask all the people who have sex, if they actually enjoy it. Does it revive them or do they feel very tired afterwards?

Are they usually feeling very full and enrichened afterwards, or more empty and lonely, as if someone had taken something away from them?

Most people use their sexual energy wrongly. They do not really understand what they feel inside, they notice an urge, a throbbing, and follow this up.

They do not try to understand what is happening inside the rest of their system, so they become will-less and behave far more like an animal than like a human being.

And I am not saying that they might not have the best intentions. Yet it feels somehow not quite the way we would like it to be.

The root chakra, the chakra in which the sexual energy is generated, is also the chakra for inner safety, stability, survival and the basis or beginning of the self.

It is the first chakra that develops after conception.

When we are capable of developing this chakra and its inner fire, when we are capable of rightly using it in the rest of our system and when we know how to get it there in the first place, our total feeling of wellbeing will highly increase. Our health will improve, our happiness will become indestructible, in spite of the adversities that might cross our path, and, this might be the best for some of you, your physical strength during sex will have augmented noticeably.

You will know how to use this in your sex life, for which as well you as your partner will be grateful, for your sex life will highly improve.

Developing your sexual energy will ultimately even turn you into a better person. So if that is what you want, let me know, as I certainly can show you how to get there.

Also see my website http://www.sasenyin.com/ under seminars, Sexual Energy.

With Love, Ria

Programm of Ria's activities untill June 2009

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Dearest Friends!!

The new Programm is ready so here it comes.
It starts with the Seminar “Sexual Energy” that I will give here at my place in Ibiza the 14th and 15th of March. At the bottom of this text you will see the description of the seminars. Bookings (email or phone) after 1st march only by phone (0034) 619 137 539.

The 3rd of April I fly to Stuttgart where I will give the Seminar " Development of practical Clairvoyance" on the 4th and 5th of April. Bookings at Rosemarie Bittiger 0711 6369075.
This seminar takes place in the Kaufmannstraße 40 Stuttgart, at Frau Juliane Stepanick’s house. It is very near to the end station Botnang of the “S-Bahn” (underground). For a description how to get there call Juliane 0711 692939.
I will stay at Rosemarie’s in Stuttgart till the 13th of April so you can book all your appointments or the seminar with her as always.

Then I will go to the Eifel and stay with Sonja Liers, Bachstarße 7 in Kerpen, tel. 06593 980840 till the 29th of April.
The 30th of April I will travel to Überlingen and will stay there till the 7th of May. On Sunday, the 3rd May I will give the mini-seminar “knowledge about the chakras”. This seminar takes place at Dorfstraße 24, Uberlingen Bambergen. Appointments for this time please with Amina Bender: Tel. 07551 9499526. I am reachable during this time at my number or the landline 07551 309550.

At the 8th of May I come back to Stuttgart till the 12th of May. Please call my phone 01577 4537512 if you want an apointment during these days.

Then I will be back in the Eifel until the 26th of May. Helmut is here already from the 18th of April till the 26th May. You can make appointments for work with me or Helmut with Sonja Liers: 06593 980840. You can also try to call Helmut directly: 01625 371919.

In June I will give a new seminar here at my place in Ibiza at the 13th and 14th: “Come out of the crisis, crisis is not your way of life!” Bookings (email or phone) after 1st of June only by phone (0034) 619 137 539. Before that though I will first give over two days also the Bachflower Remedy Seminar, the dates are the 30th of May and the 7th of June.

All Seminars except for the mini seminar start both days at 11.00-18.00 h. Please bring own lunch and something to drink. Some tea will be provided.

Seminar "Sexual Energy"
In this seminar we learn to see sexual energy for what she really is.
We'll cleanse and free her, so that we can experience what importance she has in our bodies and how to reinforce her. As soon as you see what this energy really is for, you'll understand that we want to develop and not restrict her. On top of it we'll get a different relationship with sex.
A seminar in which we'll break our taboos so we can breath freely again, for we are not bad! Seminar " Development of practical Clairvoyance"
One learns practical exercises to stimulate the intuition so clairvoyance can develop; we stimulate right thinking and learn to control wrong thinking.
This seminar offers meditations, exercises( stationary as well as in movement), and a lot of fun, for with fun one learns best. The exercises profoundly effect the etheric body, which is the organ that reigns bodily processes, stores memory and is the source of our mental (in)capabilities.
You learn to recognize and understand deeper associations, to develop and strengthen the memory. Through practical (observational) exercises one reaches a deeper consciousness, which can even be amplified after the seminar by doing the learned exercises at home. You will be strongly connected with Mother Nature.
We can learn to become clairvoyant though this is serious "business" yet we can do it with lots of fun.
Mini-seminar “knowledge about the chakras”
In this short seminar I will extensively deal with each Chakra in the sense of which colours they have, where they exactly are situated, what they do, what they stand for, how one can strengthen them and how they move.
As this takes place in an active form of meditation, you will directly be able to feel how they work and how one can strengthen them and activate them. It is a wonderful seminar for beginners as well as advanced learners.
Seminar “Come out of the crisis, crisis is not your way of life!”

We are the creators of our own destiny. Nevertheless we let ourselves be put down by our circumstances. It is not necessary to reach such a level of being affected by the crisis the world has created. It is not necessary to “not have money”, to limit oneself in one’s movements. In this seminar we will see how our way of acting causes our crisis; how we can change and create ourselves a present and future full of joy and prosperity. Take your life in your own hands!!!

Seminar "The Bach-flower remedies"
Each single remedy will be explained extensively in this seminar.If wished for, one can record this seminar for private use.We learn how to use the remedies in the most different situations and also to use them in many different ways. We'll be showing practical examples, we'll practise and stimulate thought-patterns so that after this course everyone will be able to use the remedies for themselves and others.A super time for every mother, father, therapist, medical practitioner, nurse or vet.

Lots and lots of love, hope to see you soon! It would be lovely if you could send this email to your contacts too. Maybe it will help them. Thank you!
Ria


Hola queridos,
Ya esta listo el nuevo programa.
Empieza en Ibiza con el seminario “Energía sexual” el 14 y 15 de Marzo. Abajo del Programa encontraras la descripción de cada seminario. Reservas (por email o teléfono) después el 1 de Marzo, solo por teléfono en mi numero 619 137 539.

El 3 de Abril vuelo a Stuttgart para impartir el 4 y el 5 el SEMINARIO ”Desarollo de Clarividencia Practica". Reservas Rosemarie Bittiger 0711 6369075.
Este seminario imparto en la vivienda de la señora Juliane Stepanick. Para mas info llámame. En Stuttgart estaré por lo demás en la casa de Rosemarie Bittiger como siempre. Todas las citas se hacen con ella, también las reservas para el seminario. 0711 6369075.

Entonces voy a Eifel hasta el 29 Abril. Del 30 de Abril hasta el 7 de Mayo estaré en Überlingen. El 3 de Mayo imparto allí el mini-seminario “Conocimientos de los Chakras” Lugar es Dorfstraße 24, Überlingen Bambergen. Reservas y citas Amina Bender: Tel. 07551 9499526. Mi numero en este tiempo 07551 309550.
El 8 de mayo regreso a Stuttgart hasta el 12 de Mayo. Citas para este tiempo solo conmigo 01577 4537512.
Después vuelvo al Eifel hasta incl. el 26 de Mayo. Mi dirección allí Bachstraße 7, Kerpen Eifel. Citas con Sonja Liers 06593 980840.
Helmut estara en el Eifel del 18 de Abril hasta el 26 de mayo. Citas con el también con Sonja Liers o cuando ya esta en Alemania con el directamente 01625 371919

In Junio imparto un nuevo seminario aquí en Ibiza. El 13 y el 14 de Junio hago en mi casa en Sant Mateu el Seminario “Sal de la crisis ya que crisis no es tu forma de vivir”. Reservas (por email o teléfono) después el 1 de Junio, solo por teléfono en mi numero 619 137 539. Antes, el 30 de Mayo y el 7 de Junio (o sea tambíen sobre dos días) imparto el Seminario de los Remedios de Flores de Bach


El horario de todos los seminarios excepto el mini-seminario el de 11.00-18.00 h. Se ruega traer almuerzo propio y bebida. Se sirve infusiones.

SEMINARIO “Energía sexual”
En este seminario aprendemos a ver la energía sexual como es realmente. La purificamos y la liberamos, para que podamos experimentar las funciones importantes que tiene en nuestro cuerpo y cómo podemos reforzarla. Ustedes se darán cuenta que cuando entendemos para qué sirve esta energía, no hay que restringirla sino justo lo contrario, desarrollarla. Además, tendremos una actitud muy diferente hacia el sexo. ¡Un seminario en el que rompemos tabúes para poder respirar libremente de nuevo, ya que no somos malos!


SEMINARIO ”Desarrollo de Clarividencia Practica"
En este seminario se aprende ejercicios prácticos para instigar el desarrollo de la intuición hacía la clarividencia; el pensar adecuado y controlar el pensar equivocado.
Hay meditaciones, ejercicios quietos y en movimiento y mucha diversión, ya que así, se aprende mejor. Los ejercicios actúan profundamente en el cuerpo etéreo, lo cual es el "órgano" que instiga los procesos físicos, guarda la memoria y es la fuente de nuestras habilidades (o defectos) mentales. Trabajamos para que el nivel mental normal se cambie en un nivel mental elevado.
Ustedes aprenderán a reconocer y a entender las asociaciones profundas, a desarrollar y reforzar la memoria. Por medio de ejercicios prácticos (y de observación) conseguimos una conciencia más profunda, lo cual se puede ampliar mas aún después del seminario, practicando en casa los ejercicios aprendidos. Estará fuertemente conectad@ con la Madre Naturaleza.
Clarividencia se puede aprender; es un camino serio; sin embargo se puede hacerlo divertiendose a la vez.


Mini seminario “Conocimientos de los Chacras”
En este Seminario corto se trata de los chacras de forma extensa, que significa que se habla de los colores tienen, donde están situados, que hacen y que significan, como podemos reforzarles y como se mueven.
Come el seminario es en forma de meditación activa, uno puede experimentar enseguida como funcionan y como se puede reforzar o mejor activarles. Un seminario esplendido tanto para principiantes como para avanzados.

Seminario “Sal de la crisis ya que crisis no es tu forma de vivir”
Somos creadores de nuestro destino. Sin embargo nos dejamos tirar abajo por las circunstancias. No es necesario de llegar a ser tan afectado por la crisis que el mundo se ha creado. No es necesario de 'no tener dinero', de limitarse en los movimientos. In este seminario veremos qué hacemos que nos hace caer en la crisis; como podemos cambiarnos y crearnos un presente y futuro llenos de alegría y prosperidad. Toma tu vida en tus manos!!!

“Seminario de los Remedios de Flores del Dr. Bach”
En este seminario se hablará extensamente sobre cada remedio. Se puede grabar este seminario para uso exclusivamente particular. Aprenderemos a usar los remedios en las situaciones más variadas y de formas diferentes. Se enseñan ejemplos prácticos y se ensaya; se inspiran pensamientos para que ustedes puedan usar los remedios después de esta semana, tanto para ustedes mism@s como para otr@s. Un supercurso para cada madre, padre, terapeuta, médico o enfermer@ y profesor(a) etc.

Un abrazo con mucho amor, Espero veros pronto.. Puedes mandar este mail a tus contactos? Quizás les ayuda. Gracias,
Ria


Hallo Ihr Lieben!

Das neue Programm ist schon fertig.
Es fängt mit dem Seminar in Ibiza an. Am 14. und 15. März werde ich bei mir das Seminar „Sexuelle Energie“geben. Hierunter folgen die Beschreibungen der Seminare. Buchungen (email oder Telefon) nach 1. März nur noch telefonisch bei mir 619 137 539

Dann fliege ich am 3. April nach Stuttgart wo dann am 4. und 5. April das Seminar "Entwicklung praktischer Hellsichtigkeit" stattfindet. Buchungen bei Rosemarie Bittiger 0711 6369075

Dieses Seminar findet in der Kaufmannstraße 40 Stuttgart, bei Frau Juliane Stepanick, statt. Es liegt sehr nah an der Endstation der Sbahn Botnang. Zur Wegbeschreibung kann man bei ihr anrufen, 0711 692939.
In Stuttgart bin ich bis 13 April bei Rosemarie Bittiger wie immer. Alle Terminen für diese Zeit laufen ausschließlich über sie, auch die vom Seminar.

Dann fahre ich in die Eiffel. Da bin ich bis 29 April. Allerdings werde ich hier in dieser Zeit nicht viele Termine machen.

Am 30 April fahre ich nach Überlingen wo ich von 1 Mai bis 7 Mai sein werde. Am 3. Mai gebe ich dann um 19.00-20.30 Uhr das Miniseminar „Kenntnisse der Chakren“. Das Seminar findet in der Dorfstraße 24, Uberlingen Bambergen, statt. Termine für diese Zeit bitte buchen bei Amina Bender: Tel. 07551 9499526. Erreichbar bin ich in dieser Zeit auf die Nummer 07551 309550.

Am 8. Mai komme ich nochmal zurück nach Stuttgart bis zum 12 Mai. Termine für diese Zeit bitte bei mir machen und auf meinem Händy anrufen: 01577 4537512.

Danach fahre ich wieder in die Eifel und bin da für alles erreichbar bis inkl.den 26. Mai.
Für die Eifel könnt ihr Terminen machen mit Sonja Liers: 06593 980840.
Helmut ist vom 18. april bis 26.Mai in der Eifel. Auch für Terminen mit ihm gilt Sonja Liers: 06593 980840. Auch kann man in dieser Zeit versuchen Ihn direkt zu erreichen: 01625 371919.

Im Juni werde ich ein neues Seminar geben hier bei mir auf Ibiza. Am 13 und 14 Juni findet hier in Sant Mateu das Seminar "Komme aus der Krise, denn sie ist nich dein Lebensinhalt" statt. Buchungen (email oder Telefon) nach 1. Juni nur noch telefonisch bei mir 619 137 539 Allerdings auch über 2 Tage, am 30.Mai und 7. Juni findet das Bachblütenseminar statt, auch bei mir zu Hause.


Alle Seminarzeiten außer das Miniseminar sind beide Tagen von 11.00 bis 18.00 Uhr. Bitte bring Mittagessen mit und evt. Wasser zum trinken. Für Tee wird auch gesorgt.

Seminar "Sexuelle Energie" In diesem Seminar lernen wir die sexuelle Energie als das zu sehen, was sie wirklich ist. Sie wird gereinigt und befreit und wir erfahren, welche wichtigen Aufgaben sie im Körper hat und wie sie gestärkt werden kann.
Sie werden bemerken, sobald Sie begreifen wofür die Energie ist, dass sie nicht zu bändigen sondern sogar zu entwickeln ist. Wir bekommen zudem ein anderes Verhältnis zu Sex. Ein Seminar in dem wir unsere Tabus brechen um wieder frei zu atmen, denn wir sind nicht schlecht!
Seminar "Entwicklung praktischer Hellsichtigkeit" In diesem Seminar werden praktische Übungen gelernt um die Intuition zu entwicklen damit Hellsichtigkeit entstehen kann; um das richtige Denken zu steuern und das verkehrte Denken unter Kontrolle zu bekommen. Es gibt Meditationen, Übungen in Stille und Bewegung, sowie viel Spaß, denn mit Spaß lernt es sich am Besten.
Die Übungen greifen tief in den Ätherleib ein, welcher das "Organ" ist, das die körperlichen Prozesse steuert, das Gedächtnis speichert und die Quelle unserer mentalen (Un)Fähigkeiten ist. Wir streben nach dass das niedrige Denken zum höheren Denken wird.
Sie lernen das Erkennen und Verstehen tiefer Zusammenhänge, und das Gedächtnis zu entwickeln und zu stärken. Durch praktische (Beobachtungs)Übungen wird ein tieferes Bewußtsein erreicht. Sie können das erweitern durch das Erlernte zu Hause zu üben. Sie werden in enger Verbindung mit Mutter Natur sein. Hellsichtigkeit erlernen ist eine ernsthafte Sache, die man trotzdem mit Freude angehen kann.
Miniseminar „Kentnisse der Chakren“
In diesem Kurzseminar werden die Chakras aufgiebig behandelt, das heißt es wird mitgeteilt welche Farben sie haben, wo sie sich befinden, was sie tun, wie mann sie stärken kann und wie sie sich bewegen.
Da dieses in einer aktiver Form der Meditation stattfindet, kann man gleich spüren wie sie wirken, und wie man sie stärker oder besser aktivieren kann. Ein tolles Seminar geeignet für Anfänger und Fortgeschrittenen.
"Seminar Komme aus der Krise, denn sie ist nicht dein Lebensinhalt"
Wir sind die Schöpfer unser eigenes Schicksals. Dennoch lassen wir uns durch unsere Umstände herunterziehen. Es ist nicht notwendig so von der Krise betroffen zu sein, die die Welt sich kreiert hat. Es ist nicht notwendig „kein Geld zu haben“, sich in seiner Bewegung zu begrenzen. In diesem Seminar sehen wir was wir tun wodurch wir in die Krise kommen; wie wir uns ändern können und unsere Gegenwart und Zukunft voller Fröhlichkeit und Wohlstand schöpfen können. Nimm dein Leben in deine Hände!!!

"Bachblüten Seminar"
In diesem Seminar werden alle einzelnen Bachblüten ausführlich besprochen. Man darf das Seminar auf Tonband für den eigenen Gebrauch aufnehmen.
Wir lernen die Blüten in den verschiedensten Situationen einzusetzen und auch auf die unterschiedlichsten Arten zu verwenden. Wir zeigen praktische Beispiele und üben, wir regen Gedanken an, damit man nach diesem Kurs in der Lage ist, die Bachblüten für sich und andere zu verwenden. Ein Superseminar für jede Mutter, jeden Vater, jeden Therapeut, Arzt oder Krankenschwester, jede(r) Lehrer(in) usw.
Die Bachblüten sind auch ideal für jeder der Pferde oder andere Tieren hat!

Alles alles Liebe und hoffe euch bald wieder zu sehen!! Vielleicht kannst du diese Email weiter schicken an eure Kontakten, es könnte sie vielleicht helfen. Danke
Ria

words from Ria

Dearest Readers!!

This is a personal letter with love from me to you!

For many people it is enough to have a happy life, have a happy husband or wife, to have a couple of happy children; then a happy dog and a happy cat; to achieve a happy car and a happy television set and live a happy life all together ever after.

Being in a happy loving relationship is probably one of the best things that can happen to a person, at least from my point of view. Yet when I talk about happiness, I don’t mean being happy in a superficial way as I described above. I mean a deep happiness, which is a very still, firm and strong-holding feeling inside our inner being. I mean this deep feeling, that whatever adversity touches us, that happiness will remain there and it will help us to rise above any adversity.

I am a happy, self-realised person. I found my happy husband, and happily have two daughters, cats, horses and whatever else you like to fill in the blanks! Sounds pretty good – but for me it’s not enough. It is not, and has never been, my life goal to settle for only this. That is not the reason I am on earth. It is not what I came here to do. What I came here to do was to be of service to you.

All together we are living on this planet called Earth. This means, whether we like it or not, we are actually sharing this planet. Sharing this planet means that all we do on it will have an effect on every part of it; every person, animal, plant, stone and the entire atmosphere.

If there is a war somewhere, somehow or other all the contamination this war generates will interact with us and everything on this planet. Whether it is a truck, a bomb or an aircraft catapulting its pollution into the atmosphere; whether it is the aggression or the distress, which can come back to us by a loved one coming back from the war, for example, or through the media. All of it on a gross or subtle level has an effect.

We are interconnected with each and every thing and being on this planet, so we share the responsibility for each other and everything!!

So if I work on being happy just for my little selfish being and my little egocentric family, one day, when adversity strikes, I will be all of a sudden swept back into the reality of what is really happening around me.

However, if I am working for the well-being of the whole, my happy self and my happy life will be connected to the whole all the time.

As I genuinely care for YOU I created this website to provide plenty of free relationship advice. I have put myself in the service of YOU. With this letter I want to try to persuade you too to be service of others.

By being in a real happy, loving relationship you can do this, through actively working on your relationship you are helping to change the world.

You can first start with the obvious, practical ways like being friendly and tolerant. You can exercise patience and self-control. And then, when you are becoming very skilled in your own relationship, you can even practice profound spiritual techniques to make certain projects manifest, this is practical spiritual sexuality I teach in seminars for loving relationships.

Isn’t it just wonderful that you can make love to your partner, something you really enjoy doing, knowing that you are actually helping to make the world a better place?

Stay in touch, because there is a lot of work to do and I would herewith like to invite you to consciously be of service to the world by working on the achievement of a happy, loving relationship, so that human kind will be able to live in harmony with all there is, in a peaceful, happy and balanced way.

If you want to know more about me and other areas of my work, then look into http://www.sasenyin.com/

IN LOVE,

Ria

Building a Healthy Relationship

Building a Healthy Relationship

Building a healthy relationship is not a matter to be spoken about lightly.
The difficulties that people have with their relationships nowadays are enormous.
In fact most relationships are quite painful. Why? Because many people haven’t yet discovered that building a relationship is not just something that happens in the very beginning, but that it is THE essential ingredient in keeping a relationship healthy in the long-term.

The following posts have been created to help you find out how healthy or unhealthy your relationship is. They will also help you clarify the important factors that you may need to work on in your relationship and give you an idea where to start:

Stages of a Healthy Relationship
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship


Why work on building a Healthy Loving Relationship?

The reason we want to work on building a healthy, loving relationship is very simple: a healthy relationship is not something that happens by itself!

Often when we are alone we are longing for a relationship. We long to be in somebody’s company for it is natural for a human being to be together with at least one other human being. A healthy human does not like to be alone for very long! But we don’t just want to be in any relationship. We want a healthy loving relationship. Such relationships are quite rare.

It is the daily commitment to building a healthy loving relationship that causes both partners to feel close and equally worthy. This is a very important point. If one of the partners does not feel as worthy as the other the balance is broken, and imbalance in the relationship means it is not healthy.

If we want to be happy we need to feel this equality, this acknowledgement from our partner. We will feel this equality if building on our relationship is as important to our partner as it is to ourselves.

A Healthy Relationship is an Isle of Hope

What do I mean by: a healthy relationship is an isle of hope?

It means that when I see a couple that are very much in love and I can feel their relationship has already lasted a long time, I feel that the world is still a place I want to live in.

The signs they emanate give me hope. Especially when I see older people, with healthy rosy cheeks, with shiny eyes and this special radiance holding hands together. One can see that they have been building on their relationship right up to the present. And they have never gotten tired of doing so and nor have they gotten tired of each other. This fills me with enormous gratitude, with tremendous hope.

When my husband and I, after having been married secretly with only my youngest daughter present ten years ago, decided to remarry in front of a crowd of people, with family, friends and curious people gathered around us, this was to celebrate the relationship we have. We wanted to show that being committed to building a healthy relationship is not only very worth doing but that a happy couple that has really chosen for each other, is an isle of hope for everybody else.

So to find out where you are in your relationship, or where others are in their relationship (whether healthy or not!), please check out the following pages:

Stages of a Healthy Relationship
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship


And do know this: a healthy relationship is certainly worth it, for being happy is the best thing that can happen to you. Every other trial in life becomes more bearable when your relationship is happy. Having a happy, healthy, loving relationship is not just the icing on the cake; it is the whole cake including the icing!!

Signs of a Healthy Relationship

Other Posts in this Section:

Building a Healthy Relationship
Stages of a Healthy Relationship
Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship

Signs of a Healthy Relationship

There are clear signs of a healthy relationship for everybody to see if they are willing to observe closely.

People that are in a healthy relationship certainly look different from people who are not in a healthy relationship. One of the clearest visible signs is that a woman, who is in a healthy relationship, is very attractive, even if she is not really pretty. It makes her look more desirable. Obviously the reason for this is that she is happy; happier than all those who are not having a healthy relationship, including those who don’t have a relationship at all.
She also is a woman in a good sexual relationship.

But the signs are not only to be found among women. Look at men, and see who is feeling secure. Which men move around with flair and an air of security? Then find out whether he is alone or not. You will find that behind this man there is a woman that loves him and whom he loves. She will be a woman with whom he loves to have sex, no matter how many years they have been together. Their relationship will definitely not be just a platonic relationship; it will be an active sexual relationship too.

Men and women involved in a healthy relationship are more self-assured and less self-conscious than those who are not.

More Signs Indicating a Healthy Relationship

Obviously, there are many signs that indicate that a couple is not having a healthy relationship. These are usually far easier to notice! Yet, there are clear ways of detecting positive signs, which may be subtler.

Let me give you an example from my own experience…

For my work I travel a lot and I often stay in a private house when I am abroad. There is this beautiful family in Germany who very much wanted me perform their wedding ceremony. Obviously they offered to pay for my flight.

But interestingly, they also asked me to please bring my husband, as they had heard so many positive comments about him. They were really eager to meet him and would pay for his flight too! Now the only person that could have talked to them about my husband was me, for there was no one else there that knew him.

So another sign of a healthy relationship is when partners speak flatteringly about the other, when they openly express how much they love each other. This naturally comes out in their conversations because their happiness in their relationship is part of their lives.

Obviously if they are criticizing the other all the time this is not a good sign; that shows their relationship is not healthy. Partners that lovingly hold hands, touch each other and every now and then kiss each other, maybe just in passing, are people having a healthy relationship.

Yet it is not a bad sign for two partners to be at a party and move independently through the crowd. But when they are asked about their spouse, they will happily answer with clear positive words that show that they very much love their partner.

Then at some point they will look for each other, just to see to it that their other “half” is having a good time. They will stay in touch. They will also respect the signs that show when their partner is bored, tired or simply would like to go.

These couples will, when they meet up, have a soft touching of each other, a loving look, a gentle kiss, an embrace, and then their ways may, or may not, separate again. Or they at some point will look for their partner so that they can introduce her/him to someone they find important.

In other words, they make their partner feel that she/he is important, and these are clearly noticeable signs of their healthy relationship. These signs are qualities that also very much help in having a good sexual relationship.

An important but maybe less obvious sign of a healthy relationship

A more subtle sign to recognize a healthy relationship is trust. The partners feel this total trust in one another. There are various ways these signs can show: one partner takes a decision about an event in which the two partners will be involved, without having to consult the other, for they know of each other that how they decide will be to the liking of the other partner. Another way the sign shows is: one partner travels a lot; the other partner is relaxed at home, without worries or fears, for they both know their relationship is healthy and they are both worth each other.
Maybe you yourself can find more signs of how to recognize a healthy relationship.

Look also at:
Trust in a Relationship

Signs of a Healthy Relationship

Other Posts in this Section:

Building a Healthy Relationship
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship

Signs of a Healthy Relationship

There are clear signs of a healthy relationship for everybody to see if they are willing to observe closely.

People that are in a healthy relationship certainly look different from people who are not in a healthy relationship. One of the clearest visible signs is that a woman, who is in a healthy relationship, is very attractive, even if she is not really pretty. It makes her look more desirable. Obviously the reason for this is that she is happy; happier than all those who are not having a healthy relationship, including those who don’t have a relationship at all.
She also is a woman in a good sexual relationship.

But the signs are not only to be found among women. Look at men, and see who is feeling secure. Which men move around with flair and an air of security? Then find out whether he is alone or not. You will find that behind this man there is a woman that loves him and whom he loves. She will be a woman with whom he loves to have sex, no matter how many years they have been together. Their relationship will definitely not be just a platonic relationship; it will be an active sexual relationship too.

Men and women involved in a healthy relationship are more self-assured and less self-conscious than those who are not.

More Signs Indicating a Healthy Relationship

Obviously, there are many signs that indicate that a couple is not having a healthy relationship. These are usually far easier to notice! Yet, there are clear ways of detecting positive signs, which may be subtler.

Let me give you an example from my own experience…

For my work I travel a lot and I often stay in a private house when I am abroad. There is this beautiful family in Germany who very much wanted me perform their wedding ceremony. Obviously they offered to pay for my flight.

But interestingly, they also asked me to please bring my husband, as they had heard so many positive comments about him. They were really eager to meet him and would pay for his flight too! Now the only person that could have talked to them about my husband was me, for there was no one else there that knew him.

So another sign of a healthy relationship is when partners speak flatteringly about the other, when they openly express how much they love each other. This naturally comes out in their conversations because their happiness in their relationship is part of their lives.

Obviously if they are criticizing the other all the time this is not a good sign; that shows their relationship is not healthy. Partners that lovingly hold hands, touch each other and every now and then kiss each other, maybe just in passing, are people having a healthy relationship.

Yet it is not a bad sign for two partners to be at a party and move independently through the crowd. But when they are asked about their spouse, they will happily answer with clear positive words that show that they very much love their partner.

Then at some point they will look for each other, just to see to it that their other “half” is having a good time. They will stay in touch. They will also respect the signs that show when their partner is bored, tired or simply would like to go.

These couples will, when they meet up, have a soft touching of each other, a loving look, a gentle kiss, an embrace, and then their ways may, or may not, separate again. Or they at some point will look for their partner so that they can introduce her/him to someone they find important.

In other words, they make their partner feel that she/he is important, and these are clearly noticeable signs of their healthy relationship. These signs are qualities that also very much help in having a good sexual relationship.

Stages of a Healthy Relationship

Other Posts in this Section:

Building a Healthy Relationship
Signs of a Healthy Relationship
Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship

Stages of a Healthy Relationship

In every relationship we can observe certain stages. Just as there are definite signs of a healthy relationship there are also distinct detectable stages of a healthy relationship.

I will start with the most obvious one. When two people meet, they feel attracted to each other. At first they are tolerant of each other because they very much want to be together. Yet they may notice that there are things about their new partner that they do not like.

For example, she notices he burps a lot and does this everywhere. He sees her leaving her used tissues everywhere instead of throwing them into the wastepaper basket. I’m sure you can relate to this!

Now this stage is very important because all of the subsequent stages for a healthy relationship depend on it. Often this is the stage where we are so in love that we look into the world and at our partner through rose-coloured glasses. But when the rose tint fades, the world all of a sudden is not so beautiful any more. It has lost its softness and so the relationship also becomes harsher.

However, in a healthy relationship even this first stage is a realistic one in that both are aware of the magnetic pull between them yet they have their eyes wide open and see that there are things or habits in their loved one they might have to chew on!

The 2nd Stage of a Healthy Relationship

The 2nd stage of a healthy relationship is when the first problems come. And do realise they will come! Then both partners face the fact that there is a problem and that problems are there to be solved.

The problem can be of any kind; financial, sexual, the sharing of time, behaviour etc. Usually it is one partner feeling the problem as pressing. When the relationship is healthy, she/he will have no fear about bringing this up and will talk to their partner about it. The other will listen and have her/his say in this. Maybe tempers flare up a bit and a yell here and there gets uttered. No problem if afterwards the “guilty” partner apologizes genuinely or, when they see they are not getting anywhere, they decide to drop the issue and start with it again at some other point.

In a healthy relationship there is the awareness that a happy, perfect life without any problems is not possible. That every relationship goes through ups and downs, and that in different stages of the relationship there are different problems to master, for the different stages of the relationship depend a lot on the various stages of development each person goes through within their own character.

So one of the main Characteristics of a healthy relationship at this stage is that both partners acknowledge that problems are a part of a relationship and are willing to face and solve them together.

The 3rd Stage of a Healthy Relationship

In the 3rd stage of a healthy relationship the couple has been together for quite a while. This is the period in which boredom starts to emerge in many relationships.

In a healthy relationship both partners keep on working on staying interesting for each other. They express interest in each other and touch each other a lot so that Eros’ qualities stay alive and the sexual relationship does not slacken. By the way, Eros is the God of Erotic Love.

This is very important, as this is a crucial point where relationships often start to sink into oblivion, finally ending in separation or living alongside each other in familiar grooves of habit.

A healthy relationship is quite different. That is why at this stage, when one has been actively building the relationship from the beginning, one has created a positive habit as a foundation. One will be able to master this stage with brilliance and creativity. Why? Because building on their relationship to keep it healthy has become a way of life.

Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship

Other posts related:

Building a Healthy Relationship
Stages of a Healthy Relationship
Signs of a Healthy Relationship

Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship

You might think that the characteristics of a healthy relationship are the same as the signs of a healthy relationship. Yet this is not the case. The characteristics of a relationship that is healthy are often not so obvious to the observer, and therefore could not be called ‘signs’.

If you are in a relationship, you will be able to see which characteristics it has and so find out whether it is healthy or not. Several characteristics of a healthy relationship will be mentioned here. Of course there are many more; some obvious, some subtler and less obvious.

I will start with what I feel is the most wonderful characteristic of a healthy relationship: You have a partner who makes you feel at home; a partner with whom you could live anywhere in the world and still feel at home. Why? Because your partner is your home! It shows that you feel you are in the right relationship. This is the clearest characteristic of a healthy relationship.

After this, every characteristic sounds less important, yet to have a healthy relationship and maintain it the following characteristics are very important.

More Characteristics of a Healthy Relationship

Respecting Your Partner:

In a healthy relationship the partners really respect each other. There are various ways of showing this respect. But respect must be there all the time. One must always give one’s partner the feeling that he/she is a very worthy human being.

So one of the characteristics of a healthy relationship is showing respect to your partner Unfortunately, in every marriage at some point, this becomes an important thing to work on as partners start to take each other for granted and the respect fades.

In a healthy relationship the partner will really listen when the other partner speaks. They will also listen if things are being said that they are not really interested in. Because in a healthy relationship they will know that there may be things that are interesting for the other even if not to themselves.


Listening to Your Partner:

Another clear characteristic of a healthy relationship is that the importance of listening is accepted and acknowledged. Then one either feels so much love that one understands the importance of what is being said, or one feels free to tell the partner that this is not really interesting and that she/he would rather do or talk about something else. But what is crucial is that the partner does listen, which makes it a characteristic of the healthy relationship. If you are in a relationship, and listening is not one of your skills, then take my advice: work on it! It is going to make all the difference.

Taking Time for Each Other:

When I think of all the characteristics I am aware of for a healthy relationship the one that is most striking for me is consciously taking time for each other.

When both partners are always busy whether with job, household or otherwise, it is easy to end up living separate parallel lives. But what’s the point in living together in a relationship, if the relationship is not really enjoyed? When one really consciously takes time for each other and with each other one is constantly building a strong, healthy relationship.

So as the third characteristic of a healthy relationship I would like to emphasize is to take time for and with each other. There are so many beautiful moments one can share together and it strengthens the feeling of “we” and of “belonging”, feelings that create security.

Do Some Of The Characteristics Of A Healthy Relationship Also Apply To A Healthy Sexual Relationship?

There definitely are characteristics that apply to a healthy sexual relationship in particular that have to do with our former theme of listening, but now in a different way.

When a couple that has a loving relationship want to make love, the listening takes on a finer quality. The partner learns to listen for signs from the other’s body like, for example, a change in the breathing. They then know what to do or what to change in what they are doing.

Also when the slightest moan is uttered, it is important to know whether it is a moan of pleasure, or a moan of pain. The characteristic of a healthy sexual relationship is that, if the partner hears this and does not know how to interpret it, she/he will feel totally free to ask the other what is happening, who then will give an honest answer.

The Importance of Asking a Question

The healthy relationship carries the characteristic that the partner actually will ask when he/she has doubts about any sign. And this is important. It is even more important than the answering, as this, in a healthy relationship, is the consequence of the question in the first place. I am sure that most of you have found out that a healthy relationship means also a healthy sexual relationship. If you happen to be a person who has difficulties with this, you can go to my pages on advice for men and women in a sexual relationship.

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The day-to-day characteristic of a healthy relationship

The day-to-day characteristic of a healthy relationship is this feeling when one wakes up in the morning and one looks at the pillow next to one where one sees the head of the beloved partner resting and one thinks: “ how wonderful to wake up with this person every day. How lucky I am to have found the right person to wake up with.”
And this leads us directly into the next day-to-day characteristic of a healthy relationship: when then our partner wakes up we actually tell her/him. This makes our partner feel happy, and the next characteristic of a healthy relationship is that we really, really want our partner to be happy. And this is probably the most important one that hopefully is or at least becomes a day-to-day characteristic of a healthy relationship.

How to Save Your Relationship

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How to Save Your Relationship

If you have landed on this page about how to save your relationship it means that you are already really in need of help and advice. I will be very soft and gentle with you, for you are easily hurt if you are concerned with saving your relationship. If it is the relationship of a friend you are concerned about, then please know that this friend is very sensitive and you need to be very delicate with her/him.

I am also going to be very clear because you are on the edge, and you might fall off if you make the wrong move.

If you want to save your relationship you must want to be totally you! You must be very true to yourself. By this I mean to say that self-deception—trying to see things differently from how they really are, including wistful thinking—can just push you over the edge.

The Importance of Honesty in Saving Your Relationship

Feel inside yourself if you are being totally honest. This also means you must be willing to see the truth. Do you want to save the relationship for personal reasons that are not based on love? Because if you do your partner will know this intuitively and it will not work. Yet if you feel that there is deep love between the two of you, but that there are other factors that put your relationship at stake, then it is worth fighting for.

Your Partner and the Relationship

Does your partner want to save the relationship? You don’t know? Here we have a very clear factor of what is going wrong in your relationship, namely a lack of communication.

At this point I would like to suggest that you write down everything that you feel there is between the two of you that is worth fighting for. Make a clear, detailed list. Do not just make a list in your mind – stop now and take the time to put pen to paper and make a proper list.

Now we haven’t forgotten there are problems with communication in this relationship; however, it is never too late to start communicating. So ask your partner literally: “Do you want to save our relationship?” Even if you are afraid, do this anyway. If you don’t know and you don’t ask you might not be able to begin salvaging your relationship.

We will suppose the partner answers with a yes. Then ask the partner what he/she sees as the problems in the relationship and write them down.

After this show your partner your positive list with the points worth fighting for. Ask your partner how he/she sees this. Ask also if he/she sees more positive factors.
Add these to the list after having agreed on them. Thank your partner for saying these lovely things, for obviously that is what they are.

A Suggestion That Can Save Your Relationship

Now make a promise that for one whole day you will only focus on the positive things you have in your relationship, whatever happens. Even if you feel irritated about something, you let it go. Just for one day. At the end of the day both of you sit down and make a list of what was difficult for you on that day, where you felt really angry, irritated or impatient. Also try to find out why. Talk about it.

If you want to continue this practice for another day and then another that is fine, the most important thing is to start communicating and making conscious your appreciation for each other.

This is the beginning of saving a relationship and building up a new one at the same time. It really works if both parties take it seriously. I wish you all the best!

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Love and Trust in a Relationship

Love and Trust in a Relationship

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Before I write about love and trust in a relationship let me first make my position very clear:

A relationship without love and trust is for me unthinkable.

A loving, or amorous relationship must have LOVE as the main ingredient. For without love, what is the point of a long-standing relationship between two people in the first place?

However, to make that relationship a healthy, enduring relationship, love alone is not enough. There needs to be trust. And trust is something we will have to work on.

Love in a Relationship

You may be thinking at this point, “Of course there must be love, otherwise it is not a relationship”. I agree. Yet I have noticed that many people have very different ideas about what love is. I do not really believe there are different forms of love. I feel that there are different ways that love gets expressed and different degrees of ability to love.

Yet I am very willing to start from a place of seeing love as many people do. By this I mean that many think of love as taking different forms instead of staying with the essence of love is, which is unconditional love.

But if we are going to speak about love as “unconditional love” I feel we must also include its opposite “conditional love.”

Conditional Love

How do I see conditional love? Conditional love has a way of giving but only if you… and then there comes a condition. For example, one might have the unspoken attitude “I will have sex with you if you bring me flowers.”

It is this love that unfortunately leads to manipulation. From manipulation comes the pattern of the predator-victim, and from this we start a vicious cycle. Why? Because if someone is being manipulated in this way they will repeat the pattern. So the victim will manipulate as he has been manipulated. For example, the Director scolds the manager, the manager scolds the maitre, the maitre takes it out on the bartender, who then dumps it on the waiter, the waiter throws it at the cook, the cook yells at his assistant who then kicks the dog!!

Obviously this is just a short version of what I could say about this and unfortunately one can observe this far too often in today’s relationships.

Unconditional Love

Let’s talk about unconditional love. This is love for the sake of love itself. I love you, because I do. Not because I want you to do something for me, or because you have done something for me, not even because you are beautiful. I love you because you are you. Maybe you don’t even love me and I still love you. I let you be free in whatever you are or do, in whatever you want or dream. That is unconditional love.

This is the love that will be found in a healthy relationship and this relationship is bound to be successful come what may, because both partners love and respect each other in spite of their imperfections.

Trust

Talking about trust is even more delicate than talking about love. Love is or isn’t, it is not something one can force. Trust is something one gains, usually in time. We may trust a person because we just feel we can trust that person, yet if that person would betray us once, trust goes, and only in the positive of cases can that trust be regained.

Many people today have a difficulty trusting. It could be their partner, their parents, friends, the weather forecast, or even themselves. Trust is an essential ingredient of a relationship and although a lot could be said about it at this point I would like to keep my advice simple yet profound:

To win someone’s trust the best thing to do is BE TRUTHFUL!!

Try it out, and you’ll see this is so.

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Signs a Relationship is Over

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Signs a Relationship is Over

There are certain recognizable signs that show a relationship is over. Obviously, the easiest to recognize is when one of the partners says: ‘the relationship is over’!

And no matter how difficult this may be for the other, when one partner feels it is over, then IT IS OVER. That is something to accept for a fact; otherwise you will be forever wasting your energy, which is like fighting against windmills (fantasms).

Less Obvious Signs A Relationship Is Over

Some signs are not so obvious; so take a good look. Your partner is not asking any more about how your day was, how you feel. Nor does he/she listen to what you want to say about your experiences. He/she will have an excuse that he/she is too busy, they must put the trash outside or they need to make an urgent phone call.

In the beginning this might be subtle for one has the feeling that the partner really might be busy and those busy periods in life do happen. But after a while a certain dynamic starts to develop and it’s very important that one doesn’t deny its existence. In one’s heart one knows something is not quite right. Listen to your heart and speak to your partner about it, because by bringing it up you are half way to solving the problem

The More Obvious Signs A Relationship Is Over

* Your partner is not interested in sex.

Whatever you do, it is either too late, too early, other things need to be done, or the partner is tired or ill. When this lasts longer than a week it is time to start asking clear direct questions. Don’t ask “Am I not attractive any more?” or “Are you seeing someone else?” Start with: “I can see something is wrong, for you don’t seem to want to have sex with me any more and I really want and need to know why, so please don’t be evasive and tell me.” By asking a question this way one is opening up a space to talk together free from accusation.

* Your partner spends as much time as possible away from home.

He/she comes home to sleep, to change clothes, to have showers, but even the meals are often taken somewhere else.

* The partner gets irritated when questions about his/her behaviour or change of habits are asked.

* The partner does not answer direct questions.

Possible Signs That The Relationship Is In Jeopardy.

* The partner changes his/her way of dressing and/or make-up. Maybe even the perfume or after-shave is changed. After asking why, the answer is vague.

* The partner does not receive and/or make his/her calls on the landline but mainly on their mobile phone.

* The partner leaves the room to talk on the phone.

* The partner is not interested in having visitors coming for a nice evening.

* The partner will suddenly not come to family-meetings like birthdays etc.

Now these can all be signs that a relationship is over. One has to always make sure though; so follow my advice about asking questions without accusation while leaving space for the other and get the confirmation before you act!

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Getting Over a Relationship

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Getting over a relationship feels a bit like a mourning process. One has to put all one’s effort in just staying alive and it feels very strange that the rest of the world goes on as if nothing has happened. Letting go of a relationship is one of the most difficult tasks one has to set oneself once the relationship has come to an end.

To Get Over My Relationship Where Do I Start?

The first thing to do to get over a relationship is to focus on the self; on one’s own person.

To help with this you could, for example, start to make a list of all that you feel you are. You are not a half of a broken relationship; you are your own person!

From that list take a few points and start to fill out the details.

For example, a point on your list is “I am a very intelligent person”. Now in the detailed list you are going to add: “I have an interest in good books and films. I can tell stories about events that happen to me in a way that fascinates people”.

So from filling out this detail you realise: ‘I am even very entertaining’! So you can add that to your first list.

In this way you start to focus on your self, the good things you carry inside, and that these good things have been there all along, also while you were in your relationship.

Letting Go Of The Old Relationship

By doing this you will start to see that you are a worthy person, and that the fact this relationship had to end does not necessarily mean that you or your partner were a failure.

It is also a good idea to start to list all the things that you actually gained from your relationship; all the benefits you have now that you wouldn’t have had were it not for the relationship you now want to get over.

This is very important because it will make you see you have not wasted your time, you don’t have to start hating your ex-partner nor do you have to start blaming yourself. It makes it clear to you that there was/were obvious important reason(s) for this relationship to happen.

To Get Over My Relationship, What Do I Do With My Ex-Partner?

If you have followed my advice you will notice that you have not spent time yet thinking about your ex-partner. That is exactly the right behaviour in the early stages of getting over your relationship, as you are still very emotional and you will want to accuse, blame and reproach.

This negative approach will not help you because when you fall into this attitude, you will want to direct your negativity towards the person, which means that your relationship will turn into a fiend-ship and won’t become a friend-ship.

As there are quite a few things to deal with if one still needs to maintain contact with one’s ex-partner it is important that a friendly atmosphere remains, or, if it does not yet exist, gets created. In a hostile situation it is simply not possible to maintain contact while in a good atmosphere both partners will be open and communicative.
And, as a result, each of them will make a better start in their future life.

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What is Spiritual Sexuality?

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When I talk about spiritual sexuality, I am not talking about anything phoney; nor am I talking about some kind of platonic sex life without touching. I’m speaking about something that is much, much more than that, something that must not be taken lightly or just be used as a means to increase ones own pleasure.

When Do We Practise Spiritual Sexuality?

Spiritual sexuality is practised while being engaged in the sexual act of lovemaking.

What Do I Need To Know About Spiritual Sexuality?

There are very many aspects to spiritual sexuality.

The most important thing that I would like to emphasize is that it is of utmost importance to work on your personality; to actually put into practice everything you can find on this website; to become an expert in making your partner happy while at the same time being aware of the need of your service to the world.

When you have achieved everything I have mentioned above and have deeply involved yourself in this service, then you are ready to receive teachings of spiritual sexuality.

Sexual Energy is an enormous power. It is very constructive when well used and very destructive when used unconsciously or abusively.

For that reason you may understand that, when we combine spiritual power with sexual energy, we can cause miracles to occur and when used by the wrong person in the wrong way, the force can be devastating. This is the reason that on this page you will not find anything to learn as far as spiritual sexuality is concerned, for I will only teach these practices in a live situation, where I can see the energy of the people.

Spiritual Sexuality Seminars

So if you are interested please send me an email and I will let you know when and where there is a seminar on this theme taking place. Don’t forget to mention where you live, for doing a live seminar in the U.K. when you are actually living in the U.S.A. and the other way around, may be a bit of a hassle! Or book me if you happen to have a group of people who would really like to do this seminar. My email adress is sasenyin@hotmail.com

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Sexual Energy Advice

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Sexual energy advice is well represented in books, websites and magazines. Yet the way I am going to talk about sexual energy might be new to you.

Did you know that sexual energy is the energy that actually makes it possible for you to live in your body? Without sexual energy you would be dead, or in other words: very cold!

Sexual energy causes the warmth to flow through your system and for that reason you can move your body, your digestion takes place, your liver can function and you feel.

Advice to Help the Flow of Sexual Energy

My first advice to get your sexual energy flowing is a very simple one, yet very vital!!

Move your lower body: run, belly dance, make love, walk moving your hips exaggeratedly. All of this helps to loosen up the energy that is sitting between your coccyx and your pubic bone, which is the place where sexual energy is stored.

Now it’s important for you to know that I love sex! Why? So that you’ll understand that what I am going to say next is not because I want to turn you into some kind of puritan that finds sex a sin! So read this section to the end and don’t be put off by the first sentence.

Sexual energy diminishes, if it is just used for the sexual act. This means that your whole body, your whole energy system, will suffer from this. Yet if sexual energy is used while one is loving—I mean really loving someone—then the energy increases.

You may have heard that once we have passed our mid twenties our body starts to slowly die. This is because our inner fire, our sexual energy, is starting to burn lower. Just left to itself it will not stay high.

Now it is important to increase this energy to stay healthy. So you can imagine that a healthy relationship, in which two people are making love as a sexual act, increases the sexual energy of both partners. The consequence of this is that their overall health and all their bodily functions will be greatly enhanced. And also their mind will be able to think in a “warm” way, their acting will be more free flowing and spontaneous.
They will feel happy and after each session of lovemaking they will feel invigorated.

As a consequence of feeling happy the chemical processes that help us to function properly flow more freely, and we feel better. Feeling better inspires us to start moving; moving makes our sexual energy flow better and so we have created a very nice cycle for a self-maintaining healthy energy system.

Very Practical Advice For Healthy Sexual Energy

This advice is going to be very practical. To keep the fire of your sexual energy high, there is something else you need to realise: where there needs to be warmth in the body, keep the body warm.

As I have said, sexual energy is situated in your lower body, so it might be obvious to you that it is important to keep the lower body warm. Yet it seems to me that it is not so obvious to many. When I see people wearing these low cut jeans on the hips and t-shirts or tops that expose their lower back and belly to the cold, I suffer! In summer, when it is hot, this is great. But in winter, when the body struggles to stay warm anyway, keep your lower body warm well above the waist!

Why did I give the advice of keeping the body warm?

Many young people nowadays have problems with their sexual organs. And many young people have problems within sexual relationships. Some of these problems, and please don’t underestimate this, come from not dressing warm enough.
Some of these problems are continuous infections of the bladder, vaginitis, diminished libido, impotence, erectile dysfunction, dryness of the vagina, and many more.

In my website http://www.sasenyin.com/ you will see more of what I do, so that you will find you might want some help with your health, whether physical or otherwise.

Sexual Energy is Life Energy!

As I mentioned above sexual energy is really Life energy. This energy is what keeps us alive, and being alive means we are capable of evolving. It’s not only about making love but that is certainly included! How we make Love is very important as so we can increase our sexual energy, increase our Life Force. This is a whole subject in itself, which I will tackle so stay tuned…

In the meantime, here are some other Articles on this blog that you may find helpful:

Spiritual Sexuality
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Love Trust in Relationships
Building a Healthy Relationship